After I got married I vowed not to forget my single relatives, friends and the many singles that I know. Now that I am married I have the point of view of the single and the shadchan. Although some of the complaints about shadchanim are valid, the singles/parents must make sure they are doing as much as they are able to increase their chances of finding Mr. / Mrs. Right. Everybody needs to focus on what they need to do because we can only change ourselves and the way we do things, we can not change others.
I would like to mention a few of the things one should and shouldn’t do to bring more singles closer to finding their bashert.
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Op-Ed: An Urgent Message from a Shadchan
Each time I watch my wedding video, tears roll down my face; happy tears. The joy of being married to my soul mate is indescribable, that special day was the start of my beautiful family. I recently heard an ad for a secular matchmaking website; it goes “life is too short to not find your soul mate”. How true. From the time we are young children we talk and dream about our wedding and our future spouse: why is it then that when we reach marriageable age we often become our own impediments to that dream?
After I got married I vowed not to forget my single relatives, friends and the many singles that I know. Now that I am married I have the point of view of the single and the shadchan. Although some of the complaints about shadchanim are valid, the singles/parents must make sure they are doing as much as they are able to increase their chances of finding Mr. / Mrs. Right. Everybody needs to focus on what they need to do because we can only change ourselves and the way we do things, we can not change others.
I would like to mention a few of the things one should and shouldn’t do to bring more singles closer to finding their bashert.
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