Weekly Letter: The Essential Things to Keep in Mind When Relocating
In connection with the theme of our parshios – where Yaakov and his family have now moved to Mitzrayim – we share a letter where the Rebbe gives advice concerning the moving of a family and the essential things to keep in mind when relocating.
By the Grace of G-d
28 Cheshvan, 5739
Brooklyn, N.Y.
Mr.
Englewood, N.J.
Sholom uBrocho:
I am in receipt of your letter in which you write that you find it difficult to decide where to live, in the USA or continue in your present location.
In general, when it comes to moving a family, the feelings of the wife, the Akeres Habayis, should be reckoned with. A further important consideration is that having been blessed with children, it is essential to live in a place that that offers the conditions for bringing them up in accordance with the traditional blessing of Torah, chuppah and maasim toivim in the fullest measure. If, nevertheless, there are doubts, then it is advisable to consult friends with whom the situation can be discussed in detail and open-heartedly, as it is written, “uteshuo b’rov yo’etz.”
As to the question of how to overcome a general feeling of depression, etc., it should not be difficult for a Jew, who is instructed to begin the day with the Morning Blessings, by reflection on the plain meaning of these blessings. It makes it so much easier to “count your blessings,” which should surely put you in a happy frame of mind. This is why we begin our daily prayer with Modeh ani – “I give thanks,” etc.
Especially when one reflects more deeply on the exceptional privilege given to every Jew of “ani nivreisi l’shamesh es Koini,” as explained by the well-known parable of a great and majestic king who goes out and chooses a very ordinary and humble person to be his personal attendant. And even though both the king and the servant are human beings and the difference between them is only in degree – how great is the joy of that humble person to have been so graciously privileged and elevated! How much more so and incomparably, should be the constant joy of a Jew who has been chosen to serve the Melech-malchei-hamlochim haKodosh Boruch Hu and G-d takes pleasure in his service, every time a Jew does a mitzvah and acts in accordance with G-d’s will.
No doubt you have heard about the book Tanya, which in recent years has become available also in English. In it this subject is discussed at length and it is most helpful to achieve true simcha.
Needless to say, though the daily conduct in accordance with G-d’s Will is the greatest reward in itself, it is also the channel to receive G-d’s blessings in all needs. Therefore, every additional effort in matters of goodness and holiness, Torah and mitzvos– where there is always room for improvement – widens the channels to receive G-d’s blessings, materially and spiritually.
In this connection, it is customary in such a situation to have the tefillin checked and make sure they are kosher.
May G-d grant that you should have good news to report in all above.
With blessing,
