Lessons in Education: When to Punish?

In the next piece on “responsibility” Rabbi Nochum Kaplan will discuss some of the basics of setting rules: they must be clear and unambiguous, they must be consistent and the consequences for breaking them must be clear and sure, among others. It is also our responsibility to help our children understand that consequences are the direct result of their own actions; they are not the result of our frustrations but of their poor choice.


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3 Comments

  • Real discipline

    Way too many punishments are received by children as the parent’s or rebbe’s revenge, not as part of an educational process. If so, these forms of discipline are more harmful than helpful. If everyone who became a parent or entered the field of chinuch had the proper training, there would be fewer problems of rebellious children, our yeshivos and schools would proudly display the gedolim they produced. Meanwhile, our schools and homes are discipline factories, and we are losing our children at a rate unequaled in our history. There is a huge amount of guidance in seforim by veteran mechanchim. Sifrei chassidus are also replete with precious lessons and direction. We would all be better off if these resources were used to the max.

  • Maimon

    Discipline was abused, so the new praise is in style.

    But in truth there is a time for everything.

    Rabbi Kaplen is putting discipline back into its proper perspective, where it belongs.

    BTW there is a book, “Discipline with Love”
    http://www.amazon.com/Disci