The Rebbe’s Response to an IDF Widow

In light of the recent tragedies the Avner Institute would like to present a moving letter that a young mother whose husband perished during the Yom Kippur war asking: How can she explain this tragedy to her children? What words of comfort can she give them? And the Rebbe’s response.

Courtesy of Rabbi Sholom Dovber Levin, chief librarian of Agudas Chasidei Chabad of Brooklyn.

The Mothers Letter:

To Rabbi Menachem Mendel Schneerson, Shlita:

G-d was with us during this very difficult time, and we succeeded in standing strong against all of the nations. Nevertheless, every single victory needs commitment and sacrifice, and there is no greater sacrifice than giving up a life.

Because I remain a widow with no father for my children, it is hard for me to educate them and to bring them up in the best and proper way. It is hard for me to stand alone against such a large world with all the adversity out there. Because my children have a proud Jewish heritage, Rebbe, I have questions that I would like to ask.

I have one daughter who is seven years old, and one boy who is five. How do I explain that their father’s death came through self-sacrifice to G-d’s will?

My son is asking me, “Mother, when Moshiach comes the dead will return, and then Tatty will come back. So why doesn’t Moshiach come now?”

How do I answer these questions? In my eyes these questions, which are so fundamental, may have an effect on my children’s beliefs and thoughts.

It will be a tremendous honor for me if the Rebbe can answer.

The Rebbe’s reply:

In regards to the questions the children are asking which you are writing to me about:

Explain to them [the way it is in truth] that there are souls that are so pure and holy that G-d wants them to be in the heavens, after they have completed their mission in this world and they have guarded over all the sons of Israel who live in Eretz Yisroel.

In the heavens they intercede for all their relatives and loved ones, and especially for their children, and they ask from G-d that their children succeed in studies and conduct. When their children conduct themselves properly, that is the biggest pleasure that the soul can have – that it remain alive and existing.”

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