As a 16 year old Lubavitcher girl born and raised in Crown Heights, I observe adults who are supposed to be my role models getting all fired up about such little things! With all due respect, I just don't understand why you'd be willing to give up Ahavas Yisroel, the most basic, fundamental principle that the entire Torah is based on and have such petty arguments!
Enough is enough!
Op-Ed: Enough is Enough
Everyone, listen to yourselves! This is a little long, but please hear me out, since this is very important!
As a 16 year old Lubavitcher girl born and raised in Crown Heights, I observe adults who are supposed to be my role models getting all fired up about such little things! With all due respect, I just don’t understand why you’d be willing to give up Ahavas Yisroel, the most basic, fundamental principle that the entire Torah is based on and have such petty arguments!
Enough is enough!
After a few years of reading people’s responses to articles on CrownHeights.info, I see that some people really need to take a good look at themselves and work on the values that are truly important to a Torah Jew! All this time I haven’t said a word, but now I’ve just had it.
Think about it: is it really worth all this machlockes and sinas chinam just to prove you’re right?
Please, don’t be angry with me. I’m just trying to show you what all we children and teenagers are going through; to give you a perspective that you have apparently overlooked. In school we are pumped with the ideals of tznius, ahavas yisroel, caring for every singe Jew no matter what his opinion may be, and fighting the darkness of this bitter golus in every way we can to bring Moshiach today! And then, we turn around, and the adults who are supposed to show us what a Jew, and specifically a chossid of the Rebbe should be behaving like, do the exact opposite.
It’s very confusing to us.
Please, for the sake of your own kinderlach, for the sake of Hashem, for the sake of the Rebbe, PLEASE, PLEASE, we are begging you all to stop this foolishness and help us bring Moshiach TOGETHER, as one united Jewish family. Show us children, who are the future of the Jewish People, how a Torah Jew should REALLY be like.
Why poke at the misnagdim or anybody else for that matter? All of the different types of Yiddin may have very opposing opinions on the best way to serve Hashem, but we all want Moshiach. Please, take it from the mouth of a child, and let’s all work together. When Hashem sees that His children behave peacefully and lovingly toward each other, he wants more than anything to send them Moshiach.
Please Hashem, may this be the last time someone has to protest to all this foolishness, and may we see Geulah clearly and openly right NOW!!!
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sumgai
truth
Pinson
Hear, hear.
This girl is right!
Parent
She is right. And the Rabbonim here should be the first to stand up & make Sholom & SET AN EXAMPLE. Most of us little people are trying our best.
Mendy
I think it she says it
yid
She is so right! Now let’s go and do something concrete about it!!!!
i agree
i agree whole-heartedly
dont blame
to parent: pointing the finger at anyone but ourselves is pointless, we each need to do the right thing to form a loving community
joe
fighting is good it keeps a dialogue going and keeps us in check.
Kop Doktar
Yes, this writer rminded me of yesteryear, when I had my youth. As a teenager I too knew all of the answers, but then I grew up…right and wrong became blurred, and a black and white question became gray like my hair. The simple became complicated and the obvious turned impracticle. Yes. I long for that time when I knew more than my elders, but then I became one of them.
ABOUT TIME TO SHAPE UP
Role Models please:
simple basic easy to do:
COVER YOUR ELBOWS FULLY
COVER YOUR KNEES FULLY
NECKLINE JUST PULL UP A BIT MORE
BASIC JEWISH STUFF
ESPECIALLY FOR THOSE WHO GREW UP HERE IN C.H.
YOUR RAISING A NEW GENERATION AND ITS HEADING……..
GOOD YEAR,EASY FAST
Right on!!
Wishing us all a gmar chasimah tovah and a year of shalom,brocha,hatzlocha,ashirus,nachas and simcha…..for KLALL YisROEL!!!!!!!!!!!!
teenage girl
i second the motion!
adults, get a life!
chy
yeah but the truth is the secrets start at the top!As soon as those with power stop doing the wrong everyone else will follow.
uhum
its easier said than done
well
How did she learn to write such great english? And from crown heights?
to: -parent-
there you go again – looking at someone else rather than yourself
Mendel
Thank you for saying it so nicely,
I wrote a similar op-ed on this very website exactly two years ago, and had it published also right before YK, Figureing it would or should have the biggest effect!
Here is the link
http://www.crownheights.inf…
May G-D Bless you to continue making peace.
Moshiach Now!!!
Mendel B.
Old Complaint - Not as relevant
Newsflash: The rabonim and kahila are going to a din torah as they are supposed to. Everyone does have ahvas yisroel ie try asking someone to help you cary a carage down the subway stairs or look how much tzidoka was given on erev yom kepur. The “mochlokes” is l’shaim shomayim and it keeps us in check as to whether we are doing things right. The amount of Hachnosas orchim in this commuty is astounding. Our kids are giving up everything for yidin around the world. All you have to do is look at it the correct way. Agut year to all!
crownheightsmember
“From the mouths of young ones we will derive strength.”
PLEASE, LET’S TAKE ACTION AND REALLY TRY HARD TO MAKE SURE WE ARE VERY POSITIVE ROLE MODELS IN EVERY SINGLE WAY!!!
Which side?
She’s right we should stop fighting and all agree and not take sides.
Which side?
RESIDENT
I DONT THINK YOU ARE 16 AND IF YOU ARE WHEN YOU GET OLDER YOU WILL UNDERSTAND!! I WANT TO SEE SOMEONE DO SOMETHING TO YOU AND FORGIVE THEM AS IF IT NEVER HAPPENED AS ADULTS WE DONT FORGIVE SO FAST ON THE SMALLEST THING!!
way to go!
Is there any way we can get this article circulated throughout the entire Crown Heights? Like a mailing or something? This is a very serious issue and should most certainly be addressed immediately.
To RESIDENT:
To RESIDENT:
Hey, go easy on her. She’s just a young girl trying to do the right thing. She did ask us to please not be angry with her, she’s just trying to tell us how she and the children feel.
Parent
Wasn’t it nice that someone stood up after Maariv Motzoi Shabbos in 770 & told the Kehilla not to do Kapores by the NCFJE because someone who was in Cherem sponsored the chickens?
Not true. The Cherem came down years ago. Did either of the fighting Rabbonim or anyone else make a machor against what was said?
How about the fight that erupted AS SOON AS shofar was blown, during Kaddish in 770? Such peace & harmony in our community. It doesn’t stop. And I say again: if the Rabbonim don’t show real achdus IN PUBLIC so we can all see, these nasty incidents will continue & this 16 year old will become 66 & nothing will have changed.
I rest my case. Have a PEACEFUL year.
didnt see it anywhere
Whos fighting? I thought this is a very loving and tolerant community…….
To Parent
I rest my case! …. I like that comment.
teenager
totally right! i couldn’t agree more! adults: look in the mirror before you even think of telling us what to do!
nothing is black and white
kop doktor, I wholeheartedly agree with you. Life is one big blurrrrrr.
to doktor and the others
True life is a blur, and not everything is black and white, but what this girl (and so many other young people) are really saying is:
Adults, just be a mentsch. Be a decent person. Of course there will be people you may hate with a passion, who make your lives miserable. But a decent person wouldn’t air his laundry in public.
When the fighting become PUBLIC, the children see. They smell the hypocracy and (seemingly in some cases) lies of adults telling the youth to respect each other…
So while things may be tough, and some other lubavitcher might be stealing all your money, keep things as private as you can, for the sake of the children in the community, and your own decency.
It’s what a mentsch would do.
Eli
Imagine that you love someone and that someone is simply wrong.
You can’t even comprehend how this person is so blind not to see the world with your eyes. You think to yourself: “I have to prove him/her wrong” and you are starting to do you best to prove your point of view.
Of course, in the beginning you are trying it nicely and politely waiting for another person to accept the only right position (You guessed it right – your position). However, after a while you are getting tired and starting to be more and more uncivilized, until one day you have had it and you are outwardly rude. After all you are only trying to prove that you are right. You wonder, why can’t everyone see your “light” and stubbornly sit and wait in their “darkness”?
The reason why we have all the machlockes is because we CAN NOT ACCEPT ANYONE’S POINT OF VIEW without a fight!
Let HASHEM judge if someone is right or wrong. Let Rabonnim sort they problems on their own (If they are trying to make you involve, just tell them that you want no part of it)!
I am asking every one of you PLEASE be tolerant to others!!!
This will cause Hashem to be tolerant to you and He will bless you with all the brochois in the coming year!
Shana Tova!