Kallah Ordered to Pay 75,000 NIS for Cancelling Wedding
A Jerusalem court issued a verdict ordering a young Lubavitcher woman to pay some 75,000 shekels after she was sued by her prospective groom for cancelling their wedding just over 2 weeks before it was set to take place.
The verdict, which was handed down from the Beit Mishpat Hashalom in Jerusalem, details the story of a 24-year-old groom from a Litvish background and a 19-year-old bride from a Lubavitch background, who met through family and later became engaged.
After the ‘T’noim’ were signed, the families celebrated a Lechaim and the two sides went on to choose a wedding hall, print invitations and even purchased furnishings for a bedroom, dining room and kitchen appliances. At the time, most of the expenses were paid for by the groom, except for the wedding hall, for which the bride’s father paid 6,400 NIS.
Just before the wedding, the bride announced that she is no longer interested in marrying her groom, and three days later she vanished – even her parents searched for her with no success.
The wedding was cancelled less than three weeks before it was scheduled to take place, and the spurned groom decided to sue the bride in court for 157,810 NIS for breaking the engagement contract.
In her defense, the bride claimed that she “didn’t break it off at the last moment,” and tried explaining that the reason behind it was mental and physical abuse she suffered at the hands of her prospective groom. However, the bride did not bring any evidence to support her claim, and communications between the two leading up to the cancellation of the wedding tell a different story.
“In light of all the evidence,” the judge wrote “I find that the accused backed out of her engagement contract without proving that claimant had any hand in it, or that he was guilty in any way.”
“We don’t force a person to get married, though breaking an engagement contract is like breaking any contract that gives grounds to the claimant against the accused. The claimant may sue for reinstatement, compensation for monetary and non-monetary damage sustained by the accused following the breach of promise to marry.”
On the matter of compensation for pain and suffering, the judge decided “the parties have rebuilt their lives and have children, so the fear of diminished chances of getting married has not materialized.”
“One needs to know how to let go and move on,” wrote the judge, “and therefore I have no doubt that the amount of compensation that I am ordering will be enough to validate the claimant’s feeling hurt.”
The judge then ordered that a total of 53,000 NIS for monetary damages, and an additional 7,000 NIS for non-monetary damages, be paid by the bride.
In addition, the judge ordered the bride to pay the costs of the trial, totaling 5,000 NIS, and an additional 10,000 for lawyers costs.
what is the point
why is this here?
now you know
now you why she dumped him
what do we know
“Now we know”…
What do we know?
Please explain how this is the reason she dumped him.
What's the connection?
This reminds me of the New York Times slogan -all the news that fits we print
O.T . boy 73-76
she should of had better legal help
z
Women don’t always know how to put their point across in a gemarh-dich way that the rebbeim will understand. Good chance she panicked at some behaviors she saw in him, and if it was anything like Borderline or Narsasistic Personality Disorder, no one would believe her anyway as these people’s illness make them show one side to the public and another side to those close to them. I feel sorry for her, but good thing she bailed out before it was too late. The Frum world is missing the boat with understanding Personality Disorder, and, not surprisingly, more women than men are suffering because of it.
Border personality?!
Jello feminist After this story you see that the GUY has border personality??
Look in the mirror
He’s lucky she backed out. Can you imagine being married to someone like that?
What????
having borderline personality disorder would make him treat her wonderfully until they were living together, and act like an angel as long as he’s single–trust me I live with someone with BPD.
blaming the man automatically is a pathetic, feminist thing to do since you obviously have no evidence and are just assuming its his fault, like most women do–and I’m a woman btw
Meshuga
And you wonder why there are so many single women. Get over yourself.
Andrea Schonberger
I’m not familiar with Israeli law but in the United States you can sue to get your money back on items that cannot be returned or refunded. Getting a judgement on pain and suffering would be harder but it’s only fair to get back money on material goods.
shlomo
interested that all people believe that it was mental and physical abuse she suffered at the hands of her prospective groom. and court not. simple question where ?if it lubavicher girl where it was place? it should be ihud if nobody see, nobody help?
Pedant
Excellent topic. I have a very big opinion about this.
Kulanu Chachamim???
can we PLEASE stop judging in a situation that has nothing to do with us, and where we really don’t know the details,nor is it our business. #9 has a balanced approach.
May both of them find happiness, and build a Binyan Adei Ad
Anonymous
To Z if he is the type of guy she is lucky as hell she realized it though it would have been the worst place for her to be in that would have been torture for the rest of her life unfortunately these type of man get away with it the rabbis are not educated to understand this type of life and behavior what education do they have in helping a women or marriages for that matter but more so they couldn’t care less that’s the problem those women who live with these type of men I have no words to say of what pain they must be suffering. You imagine I go to my local Rabbi and I tell him I have a problem with my toilet or my boiler what do you think he would tell me to do how much knowledge and education does he have to help me in a problem like this now could you imagine someone who has serious problems in their marriage
shlomo
from walla
מדובר בבחור מאוהב ורציני ובבחורה קלת דעת ופוחזת”, פסק בית המשפט
also since when in Lubavitch girl can escape from home for some week end even parents do not knew where she is?
sorry to say
I’m a Lubavitcher and my daughter has gone away for 12 weeks without us knowing her whereabouts. So don’t give me any if that where in Lubavitch stuff…
Operative Clause
מדובר בבחור מאוהב ורציני ובבחורה קלת דעת ופוחזת
shlomo
to# 17 sorry for you but it can happened in any family
David
To # 17 did u check if your daughter is pregnant ? After 12 weeks hashem yismor vyatzil I have seven girls every month I’m checking to see if their pregnancy