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Kallah Sues After Being Dumped Via Text Message

Yeshiva World News

A 22-year-old kallah in Israel is seeking compensatory damages after being “dumped” by her chosson via a text message to her mobile phone.

Yediot Achronot reports the two were scheduled to get married until they had an argument two weeks before the chupah, surrounding finances.

They spoke on the phone following the dispute and then she sent him a text message saying “I do not wish to fight over money. Please let’s calm down for now.”

She received a message back from the chosson “I took care of the problem. There won’t be any wedding.”

The kallah made numerous attempts to calm him down but to no avail; the wedding is off. The kallah has now decided to seek compensation for the wedding plans, as well as pain and suffering, amounting to 250,000 Shekel ($67,000).

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55 Comments

  • Apriler Narriishkeiten

    Hmm..was the date of the original Idiot article also April 1?

  • No chance

    She has no chance. He did not sign any agreement, and you can not say that he has a bidding verbal agreement as it is not uncommon that couples break up even 2 weeks prior to the wedding. Good for them to split now and not later

  • GOOD FOR HIM

    With her legal maneuvers, you can see what type of woman this is. Thanks G-d, he got out of this on time

  • wow

    what a pig he is…..she deserves every penny…or shekel!(btw i am a guy)

  • CH

    What a coward!!!!

    Better he showed his true face now then after the marriage. she should count her blessings, the guys a jerk!!!

  • ouch

    ouch! she will have a hard time getting engaged again but I feel bad that she got dump by txt

  • good luck

    Good luck girl. It’s legal to break off an engagement. This woman is delusional. Kind of validates this guys reason to dump her. He seems like a jerk though, especially by dumping via text, but it’s also legal to be a jerk!

  • Chaim S.

    Second yehuda! Seriously, got get him!!! What a disgusting person that man is

  • p.m

    another good reason why chossen and kallah shouldn’t text.
    talk on the phone don’t text.
    many misunderstandings happen bc its so shorthand.

  • Andrea Schonberger

    To the kallah, Forget him and don’t bother taking him to court–most likely only the lawyers will get money in the end and you’ll be stuck with not only the money you lost on wedding preparations but the lawyer’s bill. Just be happy that you found out about his true character before you married him. He’s a snake in the grass who’ll probably pull another stunt like this in the future. Find a chosson who’s really worthy of you.

  • leah

    “attempts to calm him down”? don’t marry him if he doesn’t want you!

  • CHOSSID WITH A CONSCIENCE

    HE DCESERVES EVERY PUNISHMENT. A LOSER WITH A BAD TEMPER.

  • Go choson

    Where does a single girl get that kind of money? And how can you put a dollar value on “suffering?” Sounds like the choson backed out because he sensed something was wrong with this woman and will end up paying far less than a lifetime of marital misery would have cost him!

  • Chana

    while you are at it Ms.Kallah, send in this despicable story/response on the part of the chassan to “That’s Outrageous” a popular column in the “Reader’s Digest” magazine. They award money to preposterous incidents this surely being one of them. No doubt your “incident” will be printed in this widely read magazine. Further, you also receive some money from them for printing your story.go for it!

  • shlomo as always with bad English

    it always about money IMHO it cheaper for him to pay, than marriage

  • good luck!

    You’re well rid of him, and better you found out now than afterwards.
    You’re intitled to compensatin in all areas.
    How dispicable to send an email, he’s not a man.
    And he’s not MATURE.
    If it wasn’t lashon hara – I’d think its a kindness to let all the rest of the single , vulnerable women out there know who he is so they won’t end up in the same situation.
    He could have handled this in a much better fashion.if he got so upset and couldn’t handle this in an adult way then maybe he needs counseling, anger management, and time to GROW UP !!!
    Now, go out and find your TZIVIG cause he wasn’t it.
    Hatzlacha, and Brocha and hold your head up , you didn’t do anything to be ashamed of.

  • A guy

    You know when a guy dumps a girl because of a fight over wedding expenses it shows that he does not care enough for her at all. You cant put a price on love. That guy is a sucker and i feel bad for the girl who chased after him to try to get him to change his mind because she loves him. To the would have been kallah, you deserve better than that and dont beat yourself up for it you will find someone better IYH. To the would have been chossen, you have commitment issues and you will never see anything through till you fix yourself up

  • yukel

    Laws in Israel are so crazy that I am sure there is a precident already set. She has a case

  • L. Gussman

    Well, what do you expect for a 22 year old? Neither one of them have the experience nor the maturity to handle a new and difficult situation such as this.

  • jewish dude

    Let the beth din decide only Rabbi’s may speak about this situation.

  • AWESOME GUY!!

    I respect you and back you 100%!! i WISH i would have had the guts to do it even the same day as the wedding!!

  • CR

    And this, boys and girls, is why the practice of Shtar Tenayim was instituted; to ensure that both sides showed up. Breaking off the wedding would actually require going before beis din and having a get written. Perhaps it is high time we stopped treating it as a cute ritual part of the wedding ceremony, complete with breaking dishes, and actually gave it some teeth again. With the level of scorn peopel keep heaping on batei din today perhaps there should even be lawyers present at the signing so it is actionable in a court of law!

  • critic

    first of all, we don’t know all the details. It is, as we learn with the crisis about Israel, all about how the media presents it.
    Second of all, “dumping” is street language, not dignified enough for a Lubavitch owned website. It makes it look like a teenage news website. trite and silly and non informative

  • n c z

    he should be embarrasst what a ferd shame on him whatever she sues she should get double like the obove comment feh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • ,sss

    feh a shande a chalere i feel so bad for the girl hope she gets over it oy oy

  • to #36

    And this is exactly the reason the Rebbe made it Chabad minhag not to make a shtar tenoyim until right before the wedding.
    if they break up r”l, it shouldn’t be with a kinyan and shtar hanging over their heads.

  • Seems like the woman is a gold digger

    Why else would someone sue? There could not have been $65,000 in losses. Maybe $2,000 in invitations, a $2,000 deposit with the caterers and maybe $1,000 deposit with photographer. This woman was evidently a money driven woman and the guy sensed this due to a money dispute and he terminated the wedding plans because divorce is a heck more costly financially and emotionally than a broken engagement. He was impolite to break it off in that manner, but what she did afterwards is well beyond impolite. She is the reason why goyim look at Jews as greedy.

  • unclear

    How come she’s wearing her wedding dress two weeks before the wedding? The photo is misleading- it leads you to think that she was jilted right before the chuppa. The story is a real shame.

  • BS--D

    BS”D
    Please stay out of other peoples business
    this is loshon hara and shouldn’t be made public.
    I hope she feels better and that they both
    find the right people. Much better to break off
    before than to c”v have a divorce with children if
    it can be avoided

  • to #28

    How about getting the number of a good marriage therapist, especially if there are kids involved.
    You can try to get the number by text if you wish :-).

  • texting is not communication....

    things are so based around what “this person texted me” as if that is real communication. you ever really get across your feelings or what you actually mean to say in a few typed words.
    people are def using their phones waaaay too far these days….. look where it can lead to….

  • good luck

    the one who walks, pays. get a good rav. he will need a shtar mechila to get on with his life.

  • Chaim Tovim

    They both seem like jerks… it may have been a good marriage after all… jerk to jerk: he’s got no tact and she’s a litigious witch

  • ooooLI

    maybe the pic is a prop? regarding the comment about the ting could be fake? who knows< sounds real to me< if that’s the case then she deserves some cash if she invested in the wedding

  • bh thats over

    they are both lucky. their marriage would have been a disaster and bh the kids would have suffered. he is wrong for her actions and she for hers. bh thats over!

  • bh thats over

    they are both lucky. their marriage would have been a disaster and bh the kids would have suffered. he is wrong for her actions and she for hers. bh thats over!

  • I am wishing you lots of luck!

    It happened to my son 10 days before the wedding. She broke it off after all the money we put down and it was passed the time we could get deposits back.
    We went to a bais din and only asked for the expenses we put out. We were awarded a good deal of the expenses.

    Baruch Hashem – my son is now engaged to a wonderful wonderful girl who is truly his basheirt.
    The trauma of being “dumped” (and that is the appropriate word) cannot be stopped by money but the parents are entitled to get those expenses back.
    You go girl!!!!

  • 2 sides to every story

    Hello is everyone here that stupid? Has anyone heard the chossons side? I’m sure theres more to the story than what the Kallah is saying. Who says they were getting along? Maybe she was threatening him while they argued and he saw a side to her that scared him off…. she cant say everything if she wants to sue. Whos to say she is a walk in the park? I mean just that she would sue shows on her character already.

  • get a therapist 41 and 52

    41 and 52 – you both are not dealing with a full deck.Rachmonis on your wives/husbands,
    Who said it was all the actual wedding costs for the actual day?
    Setting up an apartment, and filling the rooms with the basics takes cash or credit cards etc.
    And it is only right that it should be split down the middle, he changed his mind, why should she have to carry the bulk of the financial burden?
    No, we dont know the whole story, but even without knowing the particulars – it saems that wedding preparations should be split down the middle.
    Ofcourse if you are a cheapskate – you would agree that she should have total responsibility.
    And no she is not the reason why people think jews are cheap..

  • Chana Malka

    this happens all the time in the secular world but I’ve never heard of it in the orthodox world…

    better off without him NOW and not after a house full of little ones running around…

    all the best to you…

  • That-s Sick!

    Who dumps a girl by text! That’s shallow, stupid and downright wrong! He deserves what’s coming to him!