59 Comments

• Chanie

  Seems like you have done the research and been through many babysitters. I am a new mother looking for a place to leave my child for a few hours a day. Can you post an email address (make a new one if you want to remain anonymous) so that I can ask you specific questions about babysitters? Your help would be greatly appreciated!

• me

  which leads me to my point.. Ladies before going out to work.. PLEASE weigh up the pros and cons to see if it REALLY is worth it.. Are you going to work to help pay for the necessities( food on the table, rent) or are you doing it for the extras????? Unfortunately.. for many the later is true… Our precious neshamas need to be loved and cared for ( by mommy if possible)To go out to work to pay for a babysitter, cleaning lady, meals out, manicures is not doing our children any favors in the long run

• Berl

  Just by reading this list of ludicrous complaints I would have to side with the babysitter.

  The author is clearly one of those overprotective parents that is totally out of touch with reality.

• mother

  Dear Mommy
  can you please give names or numbers of good baby sitters for those mothers who just need a babysitter only once in a while. And also, thank you for those tips. They sound obvious, but will the sitter actually be good while the mommy is away and give full attention.

• !!!!

  thank you!

• sad

  It is really scary. NOBODY cares for your child as much as you do. I managed to stay home with my kids until now- but as my family is getting bigger and there are more mouths to feed and tuitions to pay- I have realized that I must start working. I will start working this September and for the first time, I will have to leave a baby- I am very concerned!

• EEEEEEEEEEE

  Thank you for writing! We need babysitters and playgroups for our children, yet there MUST be accountability on the babysitter’s or teacher’s part. This means that YES IT’S OKAY to feel comfortable asking her if you can stay with your child for a few days at the beginning to help him or her adjust. It’s understandable that she may be uncomfortable having someone observe her BUT a confident teacher knows she has nothing to hide and so agrees. It’s OKAY to ask her for what her daily schedule is, or to please not serve lolly pops, or to please send home a newsletter. It’s OKAY to question her about her philosophies in terms of child care, discipline, etc. It’s more than OKAY to let her know you have concerns about her assistant.
  Remember: this is a service that we PAY MONEY for! Our children deserve the best and we have every right to demand it!
  Mothers: BE CONFIDENT! ASK QUESTIONS! OBSERVE!

• I so dont buy this list

  Sorry but this mother sounds like a really overprotective paranoid mother who feels she is entitled to MORE than the best. If your child is happy and playing with toys do you stand there watching him with your arms folded or do you use the chance to put up a quick supper while keeping an eye and an ear out for your child? Sorry but if a babysitter makes supper when your child is happy that is OK. babysitting is not school where she is supposed to entertain, babysitting is caring for someone else’s child the way you would care for your own.

  Being told your child didnt eat, did you stop to think she didnt want to bother you? And I’m sure the child ate a few bites or enough that they didnt starve to death. I’m sure the sitter used proper judgment.

  Putting a 3 month old in front of a video? You neglect to provide all the details. Are you sure she didnt try everything else to get him to stop crying, feeding rocking etc.. only to have the baby still screaming so being a good babysitter and wanting to Calm your baby down she tried what probably every mother does as a last resort to calm down their babies? You never let your kids watch an occasional video when they are screaming?

  You pulled your son out the FIRST day because he came home tired and misrable? The first day? You didnt even give him a chance to get used to his new surroundings and adjust to eating and napping in a new strange place? First days are hard for all children.
  Sorry but it sounds like you expect babysitters to be miracle workers and give your children better care then you would even give them.

• Camras

  There is sorware that you can hook up a camra in your home to watch what the babysiter does.

• something is not adding up here..

  Whilst I agree that yes, you MUST do your research before sending your child to a babysitter, I have never in my life heard of anyone who has been through so many babysitters!

  After reading this article for a while I couldn’t begin to wonder if the problem is more with this particular mother than the numerous babysitters she has been through. Perhaps the writer has unrealistic expectations. As loving and caring as any babysitter can be, she is not the mother, and usually has a few kids the same age to watch so she won’t care for your child the same way as you do, doesn’t mean she is not doing a good job.

  It also seems that the writer has something against a certain babysitter with 12 kids??

• elki

  It’s easy to critcize. I know tbat most mother must go out and earn a living these days. But that doesn’t mean your child can be dropped off anywhere with anybody as long as the childcare worker smiles once or twice.
  I have heard many women say that they hate to share housekeepers, because their house doesn’t get the attention they would like.
  Are your children not just as important? Can you, as a mother, take care of three babies, let alone ten, at one time?
  Sorry, I know money is a burden, but after much investigation, on referall, get a babysitter one-on-one with your child. A woman who takes in a houseful of children obviously wants the money. She also needs to work, as you do.
  You’re ultimately responsible for your children not the incompetent or worse situations in which you leave them

• CH mom with dignity.

  To Dearest Commenter Two.
  So nice of you to make other peoples cheshbonos. And may I say- What is wrong with extras? Can a person have a LITTLE dignity? Extras is not a bad thing. It makes a mother feel like a human being. so, the extra 30 dollars is going to set her sheitel, or get a manicure.. or even saving up the money which will get her a new sheitel. You are obviously not married, nor do you pay rent, and you probably are bitter old man who can’t keep his nose on his face.

• totally agree

  i personally agree with this mom my child was left in a closet/laundry room to probably cry himself to sleep the babysitter didnt think i was coming to pick the child up so fast and she was quite embarrased to be caught off guard

• entirly right

  absolutely agree with number 8

• RUCHI

  I AGREE A MILLION.

  THAT PEOPLE DO IT FOR THE MONEY IS OK, I DON’T EXPECT PEOPLETO WANNA DO IT FOR FREE. THAT’S FINE.
  AT THE SAME TIME A LOT OF POINTS RAISED BY THIS MOM ARE , OOO SO TRUE!!!
  I HAD QUITE A FEW UNPLEASANT INCIDENTS WITH DAYCARE, AND ONLY HAVE 2 KIDS.
  WELL DONE…

• E.Q.

  I am one of the many, many women in the community who has to work, and yes, that means leaving my baby by a babysitter.
  As it happens I leave my baby by a babysitter who has 12 kids, KA”H, and she is the ONLY babysitter I would leave my child by. She is so wonderful, warm, loving and caring that even though there is another babysitter right next to where I live I go to her – quite a bit further.
  And I agree with number 10 that you seem to have a problem with this babysitter.
  Think before posting something like that on a public forum.

• An Educator

  over protective – i don’t think so – its not like she’s saying her child may only eat from a yellow plate and not a blue one – out of touch with reality – i don’t think so – if you take on the job of child caring you gotta make sure to do it properly (and most dont even realize what that means)- I take care of children and i know that to do the job properly, you cannot be turned away or distracted at all – and you have to make sure that the parents are happy – a happy parent who feels confident that her child is being taken care of correctly WILL NOT complain 99% of the time!

• It-s not all as bad as ou make it out to

  While I agree that some of these complaints are justified, such as the video, or telling parents not to call, others for example only informing the parents when they come to pick up their child abt what the kid ate, are not. In a licensed family home daycare center, there would be a minimal staff to children ratio which would allow more individualized attention, but regardless, you need to remember that you are not paying a babysitter to be 1:1 with your child, you’re paying someone to care for your child along with a number of other children. If you want a phone call saying your child’s not eating, hire a personal babysitter. And regarding pulling your child out after a single day, I don’t think you are truly aware of how traumatic it is for your child to be transitioning into this new stage in life. he used to be with familiar faces 24/7, and is now being thrust into the arms of someone else who he doesn’t know. Adjustment can take weeks! And while you are correct that it’s not healthy for your child to sit in his snowsuit for extended periods of time, it takes time to get children ready to go, and when multiple children are being picked up within a small amount of time, the childcare provider can only do her best. Just think about what your reaction would be if you came to pick up your child and he wasn’t all bundled up and ready to go? That’s the reason the provider is trying to have everyone ready and smiling for you parents when you come pick your kids up. It’s not malicious.
  I speak as a licensed family home childcare provider, and am explaining things that are straight out of the guidelines and rules you are required to follow in order to maintain a license.
  One final point, if you don’t want your child watching videos, that’s something that you need to ascertain doesn’t happen at the childcare center of your choice.

• unbelievable

  She goes out to work and talks about negligence. Why doesnt she take care of her own kids but she wants someone else to take care of her kids better than she does. She sounds like one of these people who only complain and a good word probable never passes her mouth. critisize,critisize. critisize.

• to 12

  I love manicures too, but its all about priorities. And if your children are your priority- you will stay with them. If YOU are your priority- you will get a babysitter so you can have the extras that make YOU feel worthwhile. (And I do care about myself and my looks and my self- esteem), but if there’s a will there is a way.
  There are so many non-working mothers whose Hispanic babysitters raise the children because Mom is out shopping, getting manicures, and going to the bagel store.

• Expecting too much

  A babysitter who watches kids in her home should take care of the children as she does her own. Do you not make dinner or clean your house while your children are awake? What is wrong with the babysitter doing some chores while the children are playing in the room where she is working? Should she call you as soon as lunch is over to inform you that your child didn’t eat his sandwich? Are you actually shocked that a young child was unable to sleep in a new place the first day he was there? My kids go to Bubby’s house all the time, but if we are ever there over Yom Tov or Shabbos, they cannot sleep well even though they are FAMILIAR with the place.

• Eye Opener

  Wow!!

• keep your negativity at home(please :-)

  I agree with 19. I have taken care of children in my home and it’s always the demanding ,controlling, and, crabby people who will be the first ones to pull out their children. They should just stay home and leave the happy, content, and satisfied people alone! She is so guilty for the negligence of her own children.

• should be preparing for shabbos...

  Re: propping up bottle
  My husband does that. He’s the best “babysitter” ever!

  But most of the other points are valid. The writer prefaced her list by saying not all these things happened to her. People need to be aware where they send their kids. Obviously, no one can take care of a child as well as his/her parents. But there has to be basic care & safety.

  Um… to # 19: are you offering to pay her bills? Seriously? Working is child neglect? I’d better go report myself.

• to number 18

  I would like to thank the author for publicizing the facts.
  Good for her.
  Whether a mother of 1 or a mother of 12, if she is being paid to babysit then she needs to babysit. And not run errands while on the job. My friend caught one and brought it to her attention – she admitted it but just made excuses. And continues to leave 1 assistant overwhelmed at random times throughout the day.
  Number 18: We are not paying for a 1:1 ratio but that does not justify negligance on the part of the babysitter. If she/they were fully tuned in to the (say 16?) kids that they had, the children would not be coming home with full wet diapers.
  The attitude of the provider needs to be that of a completely dedicated employee.

  Would you allow your employee to talk on the cell during office hours? Check facebook during office hours. These “C” employees would soon be back on the unemployment line.

  We should expect at least as much from our babysitters.
  Yes they also need money – but the job they chose carries a weighty responsibility – a security gaurd who is negligent at walmart should not be compared to a negligent official gaurding a nuclear facility.

  Our children are nuclear facilities and if you sign up to watch them, please be completely focused.

• Happy with my babysitter

  The best, and my favorite babysitter has 12 children. That is a good number, what a Brocho!!!

• Mamma Grizzly

  Mothers!!
  Who will look out for and protect your children if not for you? It is our job and our duty to look out for their precious, vulnerable souls.

  I CRINGE reading such callous, ignorant comments.
  To wittness how people can toss aside and invalidate the author’s personal observations and to claim that it is overprotectiveness?!!
  I should hope that my own mother would look out for me the way this mother obviously does for her child – and did you not read the end? She found someone! There are good babysitters -just be damned sure that you find them.

  Please!! Do me a favor and open your eyes for just a moment. Your children are your life. They are everything in this world most beautiful. We must all treat our children like the precious, priceless diamonds that they are. We must be their body guards and their mouth pieces – they are so young and innocent. Who will defend them and speak up for them if not for you?
  Why would we not want to make sure that we are sending them to the most wholesome, caring environment possible?
  Why would we not want to do everything in our G-D given power to prevent neglect and even harm to come their way?

  Do yourselves a favor and ignore the naysayers’ ignorant remarks! We know who and what is most important to us.

  LISTEN TO YOUR HEARTS!

• to #19

  maybe she has to go to work to earn money i mean this woman has every right to complain and to be overcautious about her children-it’s important

• MamaT

  As a daycare provider, I have some insights into this situation. Do you, the parent, send your child prepared?? Is his/her food adequate for the time he/she will be at the sitter? Snacks? I mean real food, fruits, vegetables, noodles, etc., NOT junk chazzerai!!!! Do you tell the sitter if your child had a bad night, lacks sleep, is coming down with a cold? That there is a family simcha?? Or additional stress in the home?? All these affect your child, and the daycare/sitter can’t do her job without your input. If you MUST work, be aware of the unseen costs to your child, I spend so much time in my daycare (in a school outside of CH) listening to kids call Mommy, Mommy, it breaks my heart. They are only young once.

• rik

  Some people are NOT reading properly! If you noticed

  Quote – “but here are some things that I personally saw and heard from other mothers. ”

  this mother has not experiences all this herself so she is not the only paranoid mother…! she is totally RIGHT! aving a daycare etc. isn’t free $$ or easy work to try and do errands and neglect kids is NOT ok. a really good daycare makes sure their kids eat talking from experience my kids are so fussy and i send them to daycare to EAT! i have also heard plenty crazy stories of over crowded daycares in ch – he more kids the more $!!!!!!!!!!!!!

• a LOVING Mommy

  Overprotective? We are talking about BABIES! Its our job to protect our babies. This mother made some very good points and yea maybe if you notice one thing by a babysitter its nothing to worry about but if a babysitter has more than one of these qualities you should think twice before leaving your BABY with them.
  She starts with an example of a mother of 12, why? To explain that even a mother who is capable of being a caring and loving mother to 12 may not care for your child correctly. She starts with it and she ends with it, take some essay classes people!

  Maybe a babysitter can make dinner while watching the children, but what she is talking about is when they are neglecting crying, hungry, tired, etc. children and taking care of their housework.

  Its easy for you NOW to ignore reality and insult this caring mother but how will it be when the reality becomes personal and its your child, your relative, your friends child whose suffering and you only find out after damage has been done?

  You don’t agree with everything she said? FINE! Take what you like from this and leave what you don’t, But don’t insult a smart mother.

  -Perfectly Protective Mommy
  (because what else does the name Mommy mean?)

• mimi

  it seems to me that this is a young mother,a little bit modern.I honestly believe it is not nice to shame someone publicly because I would rather trust 30 times more the yiddishe experience mother than a non jew.I agree with certain parts of the letter but I believe that that mother should focus a bit more in ahavas yisroel and working on her middos than embarrasing someone publicly and ruining someone else’s parnassa who certainly for sure she needs it.That takes away all the “good intentions” in your letter and make you look inmature and stupid.

• overprotective?!?!?!? no way!!!

  this is a normal, good mother, whom I sure hope every other mother should agree with!! i feel bad for your kids otherwise…no she is not asking for too much- this list is very reasonable- its not easy to find a good babsitter- and unfortunately many parents are sliding back as well…theyll hire so fast- without proper research- sooo scary what some of these kids go through

• DL

  Dear Berl,
  You are clearly NOT a mother…

• baby sitter

  I babysit kids in my home. You should see the way some mothers bring their kids. They come late to pick up their kids. They bring them earlier than agreed. Kids that come filthy and dirty and hungry. Kids who have not had a bath in days. The parent who forgets to bring the diapers and change of clothing.
  The parent who comes to pick up the child is late, hurried, can’t get her act together and yells at the child if he is not walking fast enough so she can get into the car and stop and buy food on the way and put together some kind of supper (most likely pizza).
  This mother seems to be a very bitter person who wants other people to do her job so she can go out and get dressed and work at a job that she enjoys more than taking care of her kids. She most probably demands more than her husband earns and wants “extras’
  So please, stay home take care of your child and . Here he is with other children. Someone looks at him and picks him up when he cries and does not belly ache as you do.

• Shoshana

  I think the complaints are a mixed bag. Some seem extremely valid. A babysitter not allowing for two-way communication is not a babysitter I would want to use for instance. It’s one thing to say that for an older child at a playgroup but not for a babysitting service. Ignoring vital information is a big problem. The truth is, my experience with babysitting groups has been fairly minimal. I have to say though, that I think it’s pretty obvious who the “lady with 12 kids” is and if anyone could figure out who you’re talking about from your description I would call that loshen hara or even motzi shem ra. I have to add that if she’s the same lady I’m thinking of (and it seems unlikely that she isn’t) I’ve used her on occasion and she’s been excellent.

  To the writer: I think what you might want to do is to really think what are the top priorities on what you want for your child and make this absolutely clear to the babysitter and any of her assistants in writing and verbally. Also what might be beneficial is to think really hard and decide if you really are being practical in what you’re asking.

  Btw, I also give you a lot of credit for going to a Jewish babysitting service and not using a Gentile lady. Hatzlacha Raba!

• HEY LADY, DO YOU REALLY CARE?!

  SO LADY…

  …YOU ARE CONCERNED ABOUT BABIES BUT NOT ABOUT A WOMANS PARNASA!
  …YOU DON’T WRITE YOUR NAME, BUT YOU BASICALLY HINT OUT THE BABYSITTERS NAME?!
  …YOU HAVE YOUR OWN PROBLEMS AND YOU WRITE IT AS IF IT’S EVERYONES AS WELL?!
  …YOU ARE A MOTHER NOT MORE THAN 1 OR 2 CHILDREN AND OBVIOUSLY HAVE SOMETHING AGAINST SOMEONE ON PARTICULAR, AND SINCE YOU FELT STUPID PERSONALLY YOU DECIDED TO LET IT OUT PUBLICLY…

  MAYBE YOU SHOULD THINK ABOUT THIS… AND ASK MECHILAH NOW FROM ALL THE BABYSITTERS…

  “ONE WHO EMBARRASSED SOMEONE IN PUBLIC….” (I DONT WANT TO FINISH UP WITH THE REST)

  A STORY
  SOMEONE ONCE TOLD THE REBBE THAT A CERTAIN DOCTOR IS CHARGING TO MUCH… AND THE REBBE ASKED HIM “DO YOU ACTUALLY GO TO THIS DOCTOR?” AND HE SAID YES, SO THE REBBE ASKED HIM “SO WHY ARE YOU COMING TO ME WITH COMPLAINTS?!” (GO TO A DIFFERENT DOCTOR IF YOU DON’T LIKE THIS ONE…)

  BASICALLY, ITS YOUR CHOICE, YOU DON’T WANT TO GO, YOU DONT HAVE TO, NOTHING HERE YOU MENTIONED DO WE KNOW IS EVEN 100% TRUE AND MOST OF IT IS TOTALLY FINE

  IF YOU HAVE AN ISSUE THERE ARE BETTER WAYS TO DEAL WITH IT, IN A GENERAL LETTER NOT A PERSONAL ONE!

• FATHER OF 3

  WOW here is my view.
  1) some babay sitter are great some may not be.
  2) if she makes supper and my kids are ok, its fine, i do the same at home. ( so long as she checks on them.)
  3) if she does an errand and someone else is there and there arent too many kids. thats fine
  4) if they watch videos and they are happy thats great. kids love being entertained.
  5) My childs bottle is always propped, she loves it, thats why they make bottles with tiny holes so it doesnt come out
  quickly. (obviously now a new born or a child that can not handle it.)(a mother of 12 may have more expirience then u think.)
  6) a registration fee, ( for the first week when ur kid is nuts because they are not used to the place and then u take them out, (she desserved the extra 75.00)
  7) not looking at your allergies on a form. ill give u that one.
  8) why the sitter sais ill call u: if every mother calls 5 times the sitter will need a secritery>
  9) you dont want to hear negative about ur child (he/she’s and angel im sure) then u will complain why the sitter didnt tell u she was crabby today thus didnt eat or has to see a doctor, look at it from a possitive angle, shes a helping eye.
  10) I know in my house my daughter never falls asleep when the other kids are making noise, so a side room always works, for me.
  11) If she didnt follow meal times. Its not a five star hotel (another baby could have cried, maybe even yours.)

  With this i conclude that if you would like to sugest that mothers be ware, great, the fact that u bounced from one to another, and ur still not happy, you may need to seek repair with in your self, I am quit sure all the babysitters in crown heights are not nuts> I know of 5 and the are all great people and treat the children as their own.

• FATHER OF 3

  # 37 great and direct

• EXCELLENT BABYSITTER

  I have personally had 3 children babysat (throughout the years) by a “mother of 12” babysitter in this community and have been very happy! On occassion, when my child was not feeling well, I appreciated the fact that she called me and did not let my child scream the whole day (as other babysitters may have). She welcomed my calls through out the day as well when I was just “checking in”. When I was told my child was crabby/not himself I THANKED HER -this is information that I need to know!!-I know my child is not perfect! I’ve walked in several times early/unannounced and have personally witnessed how this babysitter had all the children happy and calm.

  I believe that everyone needs to be informed and feel comfortable with whom you leave your child with. However
  I only have wonderfull things to say about this babysitter and it’s sad that a person that has a private issue with someone feels they need to air it on a public forum.
  Shame on you.

• #37

  I CAN ALSO USE THE CAP LOCK. FACT IS THERE IS GROSS NEGLIGENCE THAT GOES ON AND IT WAS A PUBLIC SERVICE TO BRING IT TO POEPLE’S ATTENTION BEFORE THEIR KID HAS TO G-D FORBID SUFFER. MAYBE A WEBSITE FOR RATING BABYSITTERS IS IN ORDER. BUT THE AUTHOR DEFINITELY IS DOING A PUBLIC SERVICE.

• #40

  Shame on you for invalidating the very real concern of a mother who expereinced, as others have, a paid babysitter, doing personal errands while entrusting way too many kids with one overwhelmed assistant.
  if you wittnessed a teacher abusing a child would you also keep it under the rug because it’s “personal” and should not be “aired in a public forum”?
  Shame Shame on you!

• CURIOUS

  “She will ask a parent to pick up their child early but then charge them for the whole day. When they question her she makes them feel stupid.

  To the writer: did you bother to explain in your letter that you were called to pick up your child bec your child was screaming and couldn’t be calmed /because the child was not well??

  Do you work for a living? Is your pay agreement with the babysitter by the hour or by the week? If it’s by the week, why would you not be charged for your regular week? is it the babysitters fault your child got sick? would you have rathered she allow your child to scream the whole day so that you get your ”money’s worth?”

  If you have an agreement with the babysitter, don’t try to weasel out of it. It’s not mentchlichkeit.

• TO #41

  You are correct-Peaple have to be informed. But it’s very clear that the reason the writer wrote this was because she has a personal vengeance against a particular babysitter.

  This article is not meant to inform, it’s meant to malign

• To: #40

  Let me ask you:

  Did you hear the other side of the story from the babysitter? if she refers to a particular babysitter (which she does in her letter) is the babysitters side being told? you are listening and judging with out the FULL FACTS???!!??

• FATHER OF 3

  TO ALL

  1) TO WRITER THANK YOU FOR BRINGING UP YOUR CONCERNS IN A PROPER OR INPROPER MANNER.

  2) TO ALL THE READERS, TAKE THE GOOD FROM THE STORY, THERE ARE MANY BABYSITTERS TO CHOOSE FROM, AND LOTS OF PEOPLE ARE DEFENDING THEM, GOD BLESS THEM ALL. LET US ALL HAVE A WONDERFULL SHABOS AND HEALTHY CHILDREN.

  MAY THIS COMMENT BE THE LAST. SINCE WE DONT NEED ANY MORE MACHLOKES IN CROWN HEIGHTS.

• comment

  #1- To take children into your house, and “babysit” is basically opening a daycare. There are guidelines, and they should be followed.
  #2- To the mother – speak to people, ask friends, neighbors, relatives who they use and if they’re happy.

• How can a Jewish Person write this?!

  Are you happy, Ms. writer of the article? You got so many people to side with you, and so many to pretty much bash you, and not to mention everybody bashing on each other. You couldn’t find a better way to write this article, besides the fact that you verbally insulted all babysitters? ARE YOU HAPPY NOW?!?!

• To #31 A LOVING mother...

  -Perfectly Protective Mommy
  (because what else does the name Mommy mean?)
  What are you an advertisement?

• #45

  It happened to me as well.
  My experience and facts may seem inconvenient to you
  but they are the facts.

• A yid

  Everyone commenting on this forum needs to remember that we are all frum yidden . One of the most important things that we learn in the torah is that we should never shame anyone in public. If someone has an issue with another, approach them quietly . In my opinion , the only thing that this author has gained was getting a load off her chest. Boruch Hashem , crown hieghts is full of so many smarter people. I’m sure that mothers are smart enough to realize when their child is not being taken care of well.

  Honestly, this author’s article is based on what she has “heard” from other mothers and what she has observed herself after 1 day!

  What would the Rebbe say about his community?
  We are so much smarter than this , come on!!

  I look at this differently. I have been giving my children to a lubavitcher babysitter for the past 6 years. Whenever there was a problem, I was so appreciative when the woman would call me and let me know. I am happy that she would tell me that my child did not eat because that means that she made an effort and I was informed that my child didn’t eat. ( she could have just thrown the food out and told me that the child ate and of course I’d never know because my baby doesn’t talk)
  Again, the author should have gone about this differently. We are not talking about shvartze and spanish babysitters. We are talking about frum women in our community.

• wow! to #41

  I don’t understand you do you, do you even hear what is coming out of your mouth, “i can also use cap’s lock” what is wrong you, not only that furthermore i could imagine you did not only wright this stupid comment (41) but you went on with the same negativity in the following comment. i do not believe you think before talking you are probably even related to the author! anyways i know as you read this comment you are thinking what to wright back please do us all a favor (including yourself good thing you did not wright your name so you don’t have to make a fool out of yourself) keep your dumb comment’s to yourself thank you

• oh my gosh!

  with what i hear i would think i was sending my kid to a concentration camp G-d forbid get a life your kids will be fine

• A babysitter in crown heights

  I am a babysitter in crown heights. After reading the comments of this woman where most of it is heresay and she is usually not happy, I am begging you, If I have your child, please take him out!!
  Everyone is human!!
  Lets write about mothers now.
  Children beware!!!
  1 Mom leaves clothing for the babysitter to dress you out of your pajamas.
  2 Mom also leaves breakfast for the babysitter to feed you.
  3 If you have a hard night , Mom will maybe forget to tell the babysitter so that the babysitter can be prepared.
  4 If you are sick, Mom may bring you anyhow hoping that the babysitter wont notice.
  5 Mom comes late everyday and just as the babysitter is done the day, mom sits down to nurse the baby for half hour!!
  6 Mom fights the babysitter for a dollar!! a dollar!!
  7 I can go on and on!!

  Let’s tell the world about these specific mothers and the fact that they should not be having children that they don’t care for properly.

  But we don’t. We talk to the mom and tell her truths that she evidently does not want to hear. We try to work together with you so that the child will be happy . After all , its all about the child, not about what the mother thinks she heard!!!!!

• Best care taker

  My mother is a wonderful babysitter and takes care of the children like her own its a shame there are not more people like her. If you want individual care you will have to pay most people are working because they need the money.

• #55

  It’s not about paying for individual care.
  It’s about not paying for someone to run errands while “watching” your kids.

• running errands

  I’m sorry to inform you the errands babysitters run are for the people they work for.

• 57

  If your not happy with your sitter, find a knew one. Some people will always find a problem with everyone.Just stay home and watch your own children or better stop having them. I know I will get slack for this comment but if you cant afford it its time to stop.

• sarah

  no babysitter will ever love your child like you do. thats why no matter what i would never leave my kids with a babysitter before age two and not with someone i dont know extremely well