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Members of congregation Beis Shmuel Chabad attended a three hour evening dedicated ‘to their children’ in a practical parenting workshop hosted by the Shul.

Beis Shmuel Does Parenting Workshop

Members of congregation Beis Shmuel Chabad attended a three hour evening dedicated ‘to their children’ in a practical parenting workshop hosted by the Shul.

The crowd was addressed by Renowned lecturer and parenting coach Perl Abramovitz who presented the crowd with the necessary approach and tools to better raise our children, which was applicable to any age.

Among the topics that were discussed were, chizuk and chinuch, talking so your children will listen, the right way to fight, encouraging healthy eating habits, a calm confident mother, stop the chutzpa.

This event is another in a series of events focusing on family that was hosted by the shul.

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43 Comments

  • Elki

    Hi Moshe, you’re a great father already, but one can always learn more. From your Auntie El

  • Didn-t know about it

    How come I didn’t know about it? Are these events unpublicized? Is there an audio?

  • RG

    where was this advertised?? i would have gone if i’d have known about it!! not only that, we would have hired a babysitter so we both could be there!!

  • What gives?

    The Rebbe always told parents to be a Chaya Dugma.

    The Rebbe stressed the importance of a shaitle … instead of a tichel.

    What gives?

    Maybe that is why the mens section was so empty?

  • sad

    It’s a real sad state when no one knows about these great events except for the “elite”. It makes me wonder if they don’t want the rest of us to mix with them. Don’t they want our kids mix with theirs either? Would it have been so bad if this would have been publicized & opened to the public?

    I work with a some families in Crown Heights & elsewhere, especially in parenting & educational matters, & I didn’t know about it! I find it very disturbing that something that could benefited so many was kept such a secret. Why?

  • If you have nothing to say, keep quiet

    Dear #6

    You’re an idiot. Mrs. Abramowitz follows HER shiita & if you take a closer look, she is far more Tznius than YOUR wife probably is! Her neckline is just that…to her NECK! Her sleeves are to the wrist. And I bet when she is sitting down you don’t see HER knees (& her legs are covered too!)

    YOUR wife & most of Crown Heights can learn Tznua from this lady.

  • out of town

    actually i am very impressed that a lady with that kind of tichel speaks in front of men audience, very unusual!

  • yungerman

    these events are very clearly advertised.. in the beis shmuel newsletters for the beis shmel members.. become a memeber.. give of yourself as we all do and reap the benefits

    And for yor info the speaker is not a Lubavitcher and has very different wasy of expressing her tznius.

  • yankel

    Don’t you guys in C.H. have anyone from your group to speak to the
    people about parenting? Are there no proper parents in C.H.??
    The teichel is not a problem. C.H. is the problem.

  • Left Out

    How can I contact the speaker Mrs Abramowitz? Bais Shmuel should advertise these kinds of events to the whole community so everyone not just Bais Shmuel members can benefit

  • Poor turnout...

    and besides – looks like if they had advertised – they may have had a better turnout!!

  • absolutely disgusted and appalled

    Dear #10

    How much is it to become a member of Bais Shmuel? How much would we have to put up for a fancy Simchas Torah Kiddush that costs more than what some Crown Heights families earn in a year?

    So it seems you make these events for the “haves” only. The have-nots don’t stand a chance, correct? If you’re poor you can’t attend because you can’t be a member. we all know there’s a cut-off where ordinary people can’t be members because they don’t have enough in the bank. i know people who were rejected because their bank balance isn’t high enough.

    That is so disgusting. Part of raising good kids by the way means teaching them respect for everyone, not just for the rich. I’m sickened by you and your friends. I can’t afford you. But again, your kids will never be good enough for mine, even though I’ll never have enough money to compete.

  • A proud jew

    to #7. I am a member and have been a member of bais shmuel for over 6 years.. and I am not the “elite” you think you need to be or you think they portrait.. I have no money no gezza etc .. and yet they made me feel like family and more since the day I came to their shule. even to issue non shabbos related, for family and monetary help… so before you open youre jealous self out to the public.. maybe get facts straight….

  • Shlichus begins in Crown Heights.

    Yashaar Koach for setting this example that parents should go out together to learn about Chinuch on a Motzie Shabbas; If only this was available in the last few years things could have been so different for today’s parents and children who are facing so many challenges.
    Meanwhile, as we all are not in a position to join the shul, can you kindly advertise on line and if need be charge a nominal fee to Non-Members.
    On another note, I challenge someone to start a Motzie Shabbos group for HS girls. This was done not so long ago and had a profound effect on the girls, many of whom are married today. This person gave so much and those parents of the girls will always be indebted… Something like this must be replicated and only needs one or two newly married woman and a few singles volunteers. If you are interested please contact the HS principals to let them know. You can make a difference; Shlichus begins in Crown Heights !!

  • bigger fan:)

    Perel Abramowitz gives parenting workshops all over the state.
    Last year she did her workshop with junior neshei in crown heights.
    I took her workshops and she really is amazing. I heard her husband gives workshops for men. It’s a real shame there were so many empty seats… should have put our just a few flyers not just in the bs newsletters. I would have loved to take my husband.

  • shame on crown heightsers

    #6 The Rebbe would have been proud of the event, I cannot say that about your comment.

    #7 get a life

    #11 what’s wrong with her, so she doesn’t live here… something wrong with that?

    #16 google blinders and get yourself a pair.

    #18 contact #7 and start a support group.

  • Help CH

    Please publicize these events for the community! If you want to charge more for non-members, fine. It could help so many people!

  • Shoshana

    Mrs. Abamowitz also does a series over the phone. I was also intrigued that a heimishe lady was speaking to an audience that had men in it and no visible mechitza. I’ve read her columns in Bina as well.

    Crown Heights has had Atara Malach speak and as far as I know, she also isn’t Lubavitch either. Is it against the code for Lubavitchers to hear speakers who aren’t Lubavitch, because maybe I’m in trouble. I heard *gasp* Rabbi Reisman speak at his Agudas Yisroel shul in Madison on Labor day. Should I do teshuva?

  • hmm...

    wow i am loving these comments, gr8 to see people letting off some weight from da chest, there’s absolutely no better to spend a Sunday. keep them coming please, we are all loving it to the bone. From Der Tshuker, With much love. and viewers like you, thank you.

  • to #7 & #18

    i daven @ Bais Shmuel i dont have alot of $ they help me out for pesach with food & money so Bais Shmuel is not only for ppl who have money they help alot of ppl thats one of the reasons i like Bais Shmuel

  • open up these meetings to everyone

    Shoshanna, LOL!!!!

    To #26, that’s nice to hear. Obviously there are a lot of very generous people in Bais Shmuel.

  • Missing the point

    These workshops are wonderful and should be publicized and attended by more people. Kol Hakovod to whoever organized it. However, there is no excuse for a lack of tznius. It is not appropriate for a woman to speak to a group of men- without a proper mechitza separating her from the men!

    The Rebbe would have been very proud that an event like this was organized, but…. not if it is compromising halacha!

    Unfortunately, as time goes on, the standards in our community fall even lower, and everyone with a computer can publish and comment foolish things.

  • shaking my head

    I can’t believe that people here are worried about whether it’s tznius for a woman to address a group of men! Are you blind? You worry about this when women & girls walk blatantly up & down Kingston half-naked, heads barely covered? THIS is what you care about?

    Get a grip. Wake up, open your eyes!!

  • Does Anyone See The Irony

    Does anyone see the irony that at a lecture in a Crown Heights shul for anash there isn’t a proper mechitza, but at the campus shabbaton even on motsi shabbos there was a proper mechitza?

    So we should infer from this that a mechitza is only necessary when we’re around “non-Lubavitchers”?

  • To # 18

    to #18
    I am not a member and i was there. I heard about it by word of mouth i guess..lucky for me. In any event-the way you speak is definitely no example of respect! In addition, there was no cover charge, and it was a very nice event. I’m sorry you have a chip on your shoulder..i have no intention of joining Bais Shmuel as i’m happy at my shul-but maybe you should reflect on your issues and work them out?

  • Missing the point

    To #30- shaking your head
    You are still missing the point. Yes, unfortunately the level of tznius is appalling, but two wrongs don’t make a right. It is still inappropriate for a woman (especially a chassidish one) to address a group of men if she is not behind a mechitza.
    I have nothing against men listening to the lecture. But it’s not appropriate for her to do so without a mechitza.

    Halacha cannot be compromised.

    Perhaps if our community wouldn’t be so wishy washy and set proper consistent halachic standards, there may be a greater respect for us and amongst us. I am not a “frummy. I am liberal enough to say that a woman can address a group of people including men (although I am not quite sure the Rebbe would have agreed had he been asked.) But I do know that you have to set standards and keep to them.

  • Shulchan aruch is not frum enough for me

    29. Missing the point wrote:

    Question for #29: “not if it is compromising halacha” – Can you cite a source from Shulchan aruch that shows that this is assur? Last I remember shulchan aruch dictates halachah not some blog commentator.

    Response to #31: The Motz”s event was a concert the generally will lead to dancing (I Wasn’t there so I don’t know if there was dancing). Dancing = the need for a michitzah. A parents workshop? can’t remember seeing that in Shulchan Aruch.

  • Shulchan aruch is not frum enough for me

    29. Missing the point wrote:

    Question for #29: “not if it is compromising halacha” – Can you cite a source from Shulchan aruch that shows that this is assur? Last I remember shulchan aruch dictates halachah not some blog commentator.

    Response to #31: The Motz”s event was a concert the generally will lead to dancing (I Wasn’t there so I don’t know if there was dancing). Dancing = the need for a michitzah. A parents workshop? can’t remember seeing that in Shulchan Aruch.

  • Rochel

    Kol Hakovod to Beis Shmuel. I hope you’re starting a trend here, for other shuls to follow, where both patents can reap the benefits of good speakers.

  • Mendel

    Here is a youtube link to the event that took place on Sunday on how to prevent our children from abuse, something that happens all too often in our community. Guest speaker: Shea Hecht.

    http://www.youtube.com/user…

  • My 2 cents

    The reason for the critical comments are because the event was about improving parenting skills.
    The critics feel that the best way to raise healthy children both spiritually and physically, is to follow Shulchan Oruch and be consistent about it. Having such an event without a Mechitza seems like an oxymoron.
    One has to realize that the Beis Shmuel crowd came to age after Gimmel tammuz, in a very difficult spiritual situation. They are wonderful yungeleit who are united and eventually will contribute to the entire community (eg. Mikva) and become chassidisher yiddden in all aspects.

  • mottele

    I can’t believe all the leidigers here. The mechitza issue may or may not be valid but stop being NEGATIVE about other yidden and chassidim. B”H there are shuls like Beis Shmuel that do these things. Have you seen the [lack of] parenting skills in 770 of a shabbos morning?!

  • cherba

    I think its beautiful for men to see what a real tzniyusdike woman looks like. Maybe they can take some of the ideas home to their wives!

  • Shame on the ppl who promote strife

    Perl is a an awesome woman who has worked on herself tremendously. She put on a tichel only after consulting daas torah. And how about those ppl who wear a tichel because of mesorah? How can you speak negatively of something so important? Without our Mesorah where would we be today?
    Besides this, Perl does NOTHING without consulting daas torah. I am sure she asked her Rav, Reb Mottel Zilber, if this is permissible in her case. Don’t be so quick to judge halacha if your not a dayan.
    Crown Hights is supposed to be a community of kindness and positivity. Please don’t belittle yourselves.

  • Shame on the ppl who promote strife

    And just to let you know, Perl would not have wanted her picture shown all around town.