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Women Celebrate Womanhood at Packed Event
Building on the success of past events, a few hundred woman gathered in the Razag Ballroom for an event titled ‘A Celebration of Womanhood,’ which discussed a range of topics including communication strategies among couples.
The event featured notable psychiatrist Dr. Feigie Russ, who spoke about the five languages of love. She referred to five items as spending quality time together, using words of affirmation to one another, giving of gifts, doing acts of service and the physical relationship.
Also speaking at the event was Mrs. Chana Labkowski, Shlucha to Sao Paulo, Brazil, who spoke about the power of Siata D’Shmaya, which is necessary for a successful relationships.
The evening concluded with an interactive panel answering questions from the crowd. The panel included Mrs. Sara Morosow, Dr. Russ and Mrs. Labkowski.
Attendees were enrolled into a raffle for a Milano wig and a piece of jewelry. The winners were Chaya Gurari – Milano Wig, and Malka Edri – Jewelry.
Gary Chapman
not very cool that Dr. Russ did not give credit to author, Gary Chapman, for the concepts of the 5 languages of love, instead presenting them as her own ideas.
To #1 get your facts right
She didn’t present them as her own ideas. She made it very clear- and it’s also well known that this concept has been around for years. She expounded on it and did not take credit for originating it.
"5 Languages" vis-a-vis Torah
B”H
IF used correctly, as described in the article, the “5 Love Languages” can enhance a relationship. For example, if a spouse broadens their repertoire of how they show love to their bashert.
HOWEVER, some in the frum world have made the valid point of indicting the “5 Love Languages” concept as being a way for some to cop out on doing certain things that the Torah commands.
For example, if a husband or wife “just can’t/won’t” bring themselves to out-and-out apologize for doing something hurtful, but chooses to “express themselves” by giving a gift INSTEAD–even where this does not “work” for the hurt spouse. It is certainly not a way to get “off the hook” by calling the gift-giving “just as valid” (per the “5 Love Languages”) as doing the right thing and apologizing, which Torah commands us to do.
Sometimes the “5 Love Languages” concept is spoken of this way in the velt. But just like WE are commanded not to say “I just can’t bring myself to keep Shabbos,” we as Yidden are not doing right by Hashem if we find a way to rationalize saying “I just can’t bring myself to apologize to him/her,” and then try to “buy them off” with compliments (“words of affirmation”), favors (“acts of service”), or gashmius presents (“giving of gifts”) INSTEAD (chas veshalom).
In ADDITION to apologies, these additional ways of “expressing oneself” are great, however, and can add positively to a relationship.
Used correctly, the “5 Love Languages” can enhance a relationship, by finding ways to give and receive MORE. But used incorrectly, as described above, it’s definitely not in keeping with the ways of Torah.