Educators Announce New Anti-Bullying Program

Educators discuss the project at the Friendship Circle conference last week.

A new anti-bullying program titled Defeat The Label (DTL) was announced at the annual Friendship Circle conference last week in West Bloomfield, MI.

The initiative, designed to empower teens to stand up to bullying and social labeling, was launched by Bassie Shemtov, Co-Director of the Meer Family Friendship Circle. To date, 1,300 teenagers around the world have signed up at DefeatTheLabel.com where they record the results of weekly missions, to do one specific act of good for a friend.

“We have many volunteers at Friendship Circle who give special needs kids unconditional love and respect for who they are, not how they look,” says Shemtov. But socially, things weren’t adding up: “They go to school the next day and the eye-rolling, name-calling and bullying continues.”

Shemtov then took her idea to fifteen local schools, where she presented a curriculum of classes on anti-bullying themes and an array of hands-on and interactive activities. Students hung up posters that said ‘Nerd,’ and ‘Dork,’ under images of kids with glasses followed by the motto, Defeat The Label, sending a clear message of acceptance of all people despite outward appearances.

Four public schools accepted the pitch for a pilot program with 100 students (at each school), who will enroll for an eight-session course over the course of the coming school year. Bradley Scheck, Student Activities Director at Walled Lake Western High School says this program sets itself apart with a “focus on being proactive and changing kids’ views of others, unlike reactive programs that deal with bullying problems only after the fact.”

“Defeat The Label is more than just anti-bullying,” explains Scheck, who will coordinate the program. “It’s about getting kids to understand that people are more alike than unalike, about general acceptance of every person.”

Scheck’s observation isn’t surprising, considering the roots of this initiative in the wildly successful Friendship Circle organization. “This program is an evolvement of Friendship Circle,” says Rabbi Bentzion Groner, Director of Friendship Circle International.

“Volunteers at Friendship Circle learn not to write off other people as socially inadequate, and not to label other children, so this program takes it to the next level,” said Groner, who is currently working to determine how other Friendship Circles could successfully implement this program. Defeat The Label will be available for adaptation by other Friendship Circles around the world by the end of 2012.

Mrs. Shemtov will measure and hone the program based on results of the pilot program, after which she expects it will be incorporated by more schools. At Walled Lake Western, Scheck hopes to create leaders of his core group of 100 students and reach all 1600 students at the school.

“Eventually, these students could teach other classes after they complete the curriculum and impact more kids in the school,” says Scheck.

Online, the social media optimized site is keeping pace in the Defeat The Label campaign, with weekly results from users and prizes for winning reports, apparel and a recent short video by Australian pop star Cody Simpson promoting Defeat The Label.

In Farmington Hills, MI, twelve year-old Blair Bean works to promote Defeat The Label at her school. For years, she’s been the victim of bullying, but today her leadership role in this program has brightened her life considerably, says her mother, Stacey.

A social worker who is employed in schools, Stacey has found that her daughter’s “involvement in this program has strengthened her,” and is grateful, especially because she’s found that children today are “much meaner” than they were when she was a schooler.

“It used to be that generally the person being bullied was a special-ed child, or someone who had an obvious difficulty, but today it seems that anyone can be bullied because of appearances or behavior.”

Defeat The Label has taken the challenge to teach children that no apparent differences—be it as superficial as “wearing glasses” or more substantial as in learning disabilities, does not warrant a label, or render an individual less deserving of respect, compassion and friendship than anyone else.

4 Comments

  • Teach kids the social skills

    I am happy that the issue of bullying is discussed here because it is important to note that excellent social skills needed to respond to bullying words and behavior can be taught, and easily; and it is a shame not to spend some money on it so your child will know what to respond to bullies – and take care of the situation themselves, with no help needed from adults. The way Izzy Kalman, a social worker in Staten Island, teaches kids the social skills needed to turn bullies into friends (not just to stop the bullying) can be found on his website http://www.bullies2buddies…. His tutorial is found hidden inside one of his links, I think one that is a tab for students. If a child cannot learn the technique from his website, he charges a certain amount for a phone consultation during which he will speak to the child and role-play until the child understands what to say in his particular situation. The techniques are fun to learn and the results re changing bullying behavior to friendly behavior are fast (even within one or two days). One child can actually turn the whole class around! Try it, you owe it to your child.

  • declasse intellectual

    Better late then never-now what about doing this in Crown Heights???????

  • Ostracism

    Ostracism and apathy are just as damaging, if not more so than outright teasing or bullying.